First of all I want to say sorry that I’ve been MIA recently. I had a little minor surgery, some uterus beautification to be exact and was really out of it for a little. I enjoyed my surgery-cation (that is surgery and vacation together). I spent days recovering then spent the rest of the time meditating and doing a little soul searching.
I had a lot of time to reflect on my life and what I’m exactly doing with it. My husband has been life coaching me and has literally cracked open my soul and gotten to the core of the onion so to speak. I really want my life to have purpose and meaning and I will tell you that one of the best ways to do that is through charity work.
When I talk about charity work and being of service, I don’t mean just writing a check or attending fancy dinners with Hollywood folk, I mean getting your hands dirty and being in the trenches. As I have written on my blog before that I go into CIW prison in Chino, California and spend time with the female, Jewish inmates there who are also in recovery.
It has changed my life. What I learned from my experiences at CIW is that you have to actually BE PRESENT to truly touch someone life. The purpose of charity work is to reach out a literal hand to lift another person up. It’s one soul helping another soul, face to face.
I’ve worked in Hollywood a long time and I have been to my fair share of those charity $10,000.00 a table or $500.00 a plate dinners where celebrities perform and are honored. Don’t get me wrong, it’s great to raise money for worthy charities and they need the rich people to fund their good causes. But if all you’re doing is writing checks and attending fancy dinners you’re not really being of service…well you’re being of service to your ego and tax refunds that’s for sure.
There are great examples of celebrities who in fact do get their hands dirty, like Angelina Jolie, Brad Pitt, Ben Affleck and Matt Damon, but there are way more examples of those putting on suits and attending functions to look like they really care.
I love the miracles and magical moments of raw human connectedness I get from going into the prison and helping the women there. I would not get those moments by simply writing a check. This kind of work is so important because it opens your heart and enables you to feel grateful for what you have.
So, if you want to make a difference in this world, get off your couch, put away your fancy suit or dress and get into the trenches, your soul and the other souls you will help in the process will thank you. I guarantee that you will be overwhelmed with gratitude, your self worth with skyrocket and it will change your life.