Well, we finally got a response from Gwyneth regarding the comment she made weeks ago about moms who work 9 to 5 jobs having it easier than highly paid actress who work once a year. It sparked a great deal of outrage from working moms.
As you recall, I wrote an open letter to Gwyneth and to Mackenzie Dawson. Mackenzie Dawson is a 9 to 5 working mom who wrote this rather nasty open letter to Gwyneth on the NY Post website. Mackenzie got a lot of press where she sort of back peddled and made light of her open letter. I was thinking to myself, “just own it, honey, you wrote it. Don’t try to be all politically correct now.”
I was actually appalled at both of them for having zero gratitude. Here are two women who have healthy children and good paying jobs that are complaining about their lives. There are women like me who suffer from infertility who would give their left ovary to have working mom problems. There are also women who have special needs children, single moms and mothers on welfare who would probably also give their left ovaries for their “problems.”
I thought that Gwyneth in her post would do the spiritually right thing and apologize for the comments that she made about 9 to 5 working moms, but that is not at all what she did. She could have had some humility and could have offered up a little compassion but instead she went on the defensive. I was told by a very wise man once, “it’s okay if you make a mistake but never defend a mistake.”
Let’s talk about the title of her post, first, “Ending the Mommy Wars.” First of all the phrase “Mommy Wars” was a term made popular in 1986 after Leslie Morgan Steiner published her book entitled, “Mommy Wars: Stay-at-Home and Career Moms Face Off on Their Choices, Their Lives, Their Families.” “Mommy Wars” are about stay-at-home moms vs. working moms, not working moms vs. working moms.
In response to Gwyneth’s quote about working moms having it easier, she said in her post, that the quote was taken out of context. Really? So was your quote on food choices taken out of context too? “I’d rather smoke crack than eat cheese from a tin.” Or how about the quote she had on lifestyle, “I am who I am. I can’t pretend to be someone who makes $25,000 a year.”
Gwyneth said in her “Ending the Mommy Wars” post, “Why do we feel so entitled to opine, often so negatively, on the choices of other women?” That seems like a valid point if she didn’t do the same thing. And this is my favorite quote of Gwyneth’s where she opines negatively on Joan Rivers. “I’ve probably tried everything. I would be scared to go under the knife, but you know, talk to me when I’m 50. I’ll try anything. Except I won’t do Botox again, because I looked crazy. I looked like Joan Rivers.”
So, what did we learn this week from Gwyneth’s Goop post? Well, we learned Gwyneth doesn’t know the definition of the term “Mommy Wars.” And we also learned that it’s okay to say whatever you want because you can always claim you were quoted out of context.