I found this the other day and had I taken this test 9 years ago I would have scored a big fat CONTROL FREAK! With the help of working a rigorous spiritual program I’ve learned to let go. Most control freaks I know need to be so controlling because their home life growing up was so out of control. For me, I was the out of control one and needed to manage and control everything. What goes hand in hand with control is perfectionism. I didn’t want anyone to see I was suffering so I put on this façade that everything was okay. I had to be perceived as perfect in order for everything to be okay.
I learned some valuable things in recovery: 1) You can’t save your ass and your face at the same time 2) It’s none of my business what others think of me and 3) What’s your business is in your hula hoop – meaning anything outside of my hula hoop is none of my business. I stopped judging others because when I do that I’m not looking at myself. Most importantly and not to get Brene Brown on you, I also learned to be vulnerable. I let those close to me see who I am, warts and all.
So, for all those control freaks out there, it’s time to relax, live and let live and allow yourselves to be vulnerable.